Games night, at a pub?
Sounds boring…think again!
Last night turned out to be quite an eventful evening! It started off as usual getting the 159 from Streatham to Trafalgar Square and then walking down The Strand to get to the pub where the games night was being held.
Along the way I saw a middle aged homeless guy, I was right near Tesco (one of the numerous supermarket chains in London) and went in and bought him a bunch of food and some water. I went up to the guy and handed him the food, he refused it!
In all the countries where I’ve bought food for homeless people (Australia, USA, Canada the list goes on…seriously, the list goes on!) this was the first time that I had a homeless person openly insist that he could go buy food for himself and refused my gesture! I found it strange how insistent he was that he could just buy food if he wanted to, this caused me to wonder…why was he holding out an empty cup?
Anyway, I left the food for him and walked away!

Apparently you can tell my personality from these cards...
The games night was fun – I played “Apples to Apples“, apparently the adjective cards you receive for points explain your own personality (read the rules if you don’t understand what I just said…).
If this is the case then my personality is some combination of: Inspirational, Rich, Fuzzy, Graceful and Spiritual.
We played a variety of games including, “Mafia” and ”Jungle Speed“.
Fun was had by all.
After I left the pub I headed back towards Trafalgar Square to get my bus home, I was practically there right near the beginning of The Strand and I saw a guy looking around like something was wrong.
I said to him, “You alright mate?”
He stormed over and said “WHY WOULDN’T I BE?”
You have to understand, this guy was maybe a foot taller than me, had a big gut and was built solid – he could have snapped me in half if he wanted to!
“You looked like something was wrong” I replied as best I could.
“WHY WOULD SOMETHING BE WRONG?”.
He didn’t smell drunk but maybe he had been drinking. He was definitely annoyed/upset about something and was quite aggressive. His massive gut was up against my stomach.
“I don’t know, maybe you lost someone or are looking for something?” I motioned to him how he looked when I first started talking to him – that is looking down the street in a searching kind of manor.
We had a few more exchanges, I can’t quite remember what I said and what he said. All I can remember is thinking, “if I back away then this guy will knock me to the ground”. So I stood my ground and managed to talk my way out of the situation.
“OK, You can go now” and he gave me a bit of a push and kept walking.
I’m not going to lie to you, I was a little bit shaken by this experience.
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So, you are probably asking yourself will I learn the lesson. Will I harden my heart and stop offering help to those who are in need and asking if people need help?
I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, that the answer to this question is: NO!
I will not let that happen to me, because I know that despite the large number of people that are begging on the streets some of them are in genuine need and I have to just keep filling their cups with food.
Will I stop asking people if they need help if they look like something is wrong? No, because I know the one time I don’t offer help to someone then they will probably be the person that actually needs someone to help them.
So what does this mean then? I can see two potentially negative outcomes:
1. Maybe I’ll occasionally buy food for people that actually have money to buy it for themselves – fine what harm is done?
2. Perhaps I’ll get smashed in the face every now and then – that is definitely not the best outcome, but if it means that I’ll find someone, one day that is in need of help and I can help them, then great!
The positive is that one day I’ll help someone in genuine need and probably I won’t even know it